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[road]>USK<[]

Oct 2, 2008 7:23:35 GMT -5 phantomvirus said:

Oh, ignore Tsumetai, he at least didn't call you a moron. At any rate, if soulkiller can debate about his theory then you can talk about this. Road I have the same problem as you, I'm 19 yars old and I've never even been on a date. So you should think of yourself a little better then me. Why have I not been on a date, because im a coward I'll admit it. The other half is that I'm a christian and when I want to date it will be because im considering marriage, I mostly want to date other christians. Note that this is not a tip for you and note this is not me being prejudiced or racist its just my belief, please dont smite me down Tsm. At any rate don't give up hope Road! I'm sure God has a very beautiful woman down the road who will make you a happy man

Remember: You can stop hilary but you Can't Stop the Virus

actually virus, to be honest, im a coward as well i mean....i have no problem talkin to em but...when it comes to askin someone out....i just cant do it.

[The Cat's Meow]

Well, talking from experience, I say you just have to do it. Straight up. As in, don't even give yourself enough time to doubt yourself.

Also, is the girl in good terms with you? Good friends, the such? If your in her good books she may say yes even if you do stutter like a motorboat when you try to ask her XD.

You just gotta get in there, and do it. Look at it this way, if you atleast DIDN'T try to ask her out, you'd only be left asking yourself "what if" for a very, very long time.

Eitherway, thats my 2 cents. Hoped it helps. Best of luck on your endeavours mate =)

[road]>USK<[]

much appreciated cat....yeah ya are right i just need to do it and not think about it....i have all the time for regrets afterwards i not need to worry about it now right?? okey dokey thanks and meeeoooow!!!

[The Cat's Meow]

No problem mate xD Meow!

[road]>USK<[]

awesome

[ajb303}N{]

Oct 1, 2008 18:57:02 GMT -5 road]>USK<[ said:

Guys lets face it, ya have heard me on ts and on unreal complaining about them. Im not very good with them as far as me askin em out for a date or something and im not to confident with myself after being shot down several times by em. Do ya think im being to soft? I want serious comments on this one and not assinine remarks. Also pointers on this subject are welcome.

Hey buddy ;D Road, i read your's and phantom's posts and us three are eye to eye. I had the same problems. My problem was that i was too shy. I had no problems talking to them, making them laugh and becoming familiar with them. But as far as asking them out...always thought i had to have a great senario or setting to ask. Just thought too much about it. I think it was Meow or similar that said it best. Don't be afraid of rejection. Execept the one dude, dunno who, said he's never been turned down, I do not know ONE guy who hasnt gotten the hand in the face (metaphorically speaking of course). I learned, i know it sounds so stupid, if you remain true to how you are, women will see this as a turn on. What worked for me was to be a good listener. It's cheesy. But it works, think about it. Lookin to help out. Later buddy

[phantomvirus]

Great to see you posting ajb Road, Ajb has very good advice.

Remember: You Can't Stop the Virus!

[Moose.:LLS:.]

The way to get with a girl is make friends with them, And sort of make the one you like apart from the group make them feel special, give them your attention, and if they like you , you will know trust me i have experience (H)

-Edit- And if they dont like you for your personality forget them , they arent worth your time and effort because that means they either are shallow or they fussy or not suited to you.

[binerexis]

I usually end up going for the 'loveable cad' kind of approach. I get a lot of girl friends that way but I don't recall if I ever got a girlfriend from it...

Ah well, it's just a fun way to act anyway if you can pull it off

[[RG]ßäÐ-Gî®L]

Coming from a girls point of view....

I agree with Phil and Cat.
They are stressing the point that you need to be friends with the person before you ask them out.
I won't just go out with a random guy that likes me.
I want to know who he is.
Spending just 5 minutes talking to a guy I can pretty much figure out if....
A. He wants in my pants.
or
B. He is decent and actually is someone I would date.

When a guy talks to me I want him to be confident, nice, not a suck up, and looking in my eyes.

If the girl doesnt seem to be interested in you when you talk to her... just be nice about it and not mean or down.
She might figure out that you really are a decent guy.
If your EXTREMELY nervous around a girl I would think it means you don't know her well enough and you should have atleast a few conversations with her.

Just smile, take a deep breath, and go ask her a question.. maybe tell her you like her hair... eyes... or shirt.
Ask her how her day is and if its not good take the time to talk to her about it.
You would be suprised how more conversations that could lead to.

Just some of my advice.
Feel free to message me with any questions.

[ineedhelp}N{]

want me to send you a woman?

Just kidding

Seriously just go for it if you get knocked down just get right back up and say to yourself "oh well" ive had plenty of kickbacks but also plenty of good replies neither make me feel any less. Seriously just go for it start a conversation nice and easy then just pop the question "wanna go for a drink some time" or whichever suits you best. Why bother having regrets afterwards if she says no? its a waste of time, energy and confidence to then doubt yourself saying well whats wrong with me, or what did i do wrong with her. You will never know most likely why she said no and if asked she would probably lie anyways about the reason for the no.

[ajb303}N{]

Oct 30, 2008 17:08:55 GMT -5 ineedhelp}N{ said:

want me to send you a woman?

Just kidding

Seriously just go for it if you get knocked down just get right back up and say to yourself "oh well" ive had plenty of kickbacks but also plenty of good replies neither make me feel any less. Seriously just go for it start a conversation nice and easy then just pop the question "wanna go for a drink some time" or whichever suits you best. Why bother having regrets afterwards if she says no? its a waste of time, energy and confidence to then doubt yourself saying well whats wrong with me, or what did i do wrong with her. You will never know most likely why she said no and if asked she would probably lie anyways about the reason for the no.

Couldn't have said it better

[Rugal]

A lot of the time (At least from people that I know), guys are afraid to ask because they are afraid of the "commitment" that comes with having a girlfriend. I mean, not to sound sexist or anything like that; but for some people, why not want to have a friend with perks instead of having a full-blown "commitment" to a person for the fear of it abruptly ending and feeling like the lowest scum in the world when it happens?

[ShoMeTheMoney]>USK<[]

OK the fact that you're having to make this post is your first problem. CONFIDENCE! Best thing you can ever have, some might say you're stuck up, they'll get over it. If you go talk to girl and you know that she likes or will like you, you are set. You can atleast get a friend out of it.

No one has mentioned it here but a lot of people talk about game. Game is only necessary if you want a one nighter (which i like but are not for everyone). Now if your are looking for a girlfriend or atleast something a little more serious than a one nighter: when you ask the girl out, don't say "Hey will you go out with me?" ask her if she wants to "hang out" sometime. Then take her mini golfing or something not to dinner and a movie. Lunch is what i find to work the best for a first "date". At lunch there is no pressure cause it doesn't feel like a date and it's like you are just hanging out with a friend, which should help you relax and not be nervous.

[RadicalRom]>USK<[]

I was a coward and after the second girlfriend it became easier, but still was a bit rough for me. My biggest problem when I was single was I thought about it to much. I tried to plan it out in my head and there was some late nights going over different situations on what if.... My biggest concern was the last time asked someone out for a date (she ended up to be my wife) and that was only because I worked with her. I went through all of the what if's and my concern was if she said no or she dumped me or it did not work out, now I have to still work with her. Yes, I might of spent many nights thinking about what I would say, but I NEVER backed down to ask someone out.

I am so glad I am through that, lol.